Posted by janet
on Jun 27th, 2014
The interventions we use when children battle over toys or engage in other social struggles are reflective of our perceptions of their abilities, as well as our general attitudes toward learning and ‘struggle’. Do we perceive babies, toddlers and preschoolers as basically capable? Or fragile and needy? Are our children born active, self-directed learners (as child specialist Magda Gerber asserted), or do they need us to manage their development from day one? Should we prevent children from struggling, avoid frustration and disappointment, or are age-appropriate conflicts healthy learning opportunities?
My experiences working with infants and toddlers confirm Magda Gerber’s assertions about their competency and the benefits of allowing them to learn through conflict. In my recent post, Share… Wait Your Turn… Don’t Touch… Playdate Rules That Limit Learning, I shared intervention techniques she recommended for helping kids learn from social struggles and some of the reasoning behind this approach. I’m using this podcast to demonstrate and elaborate further:
More on this topic:
What to do About a Toddler Toy Taker
Helping Toddler Resolve Conflicts – Rules of Engagement
5 Benefits of Sportscasting Your Child’s Struggles
The S Word – Toddlers Learning To Share
The Baby Social Scene – 5 Hints for Creating Safe and Joyful Playgroups
5 Reasons to Love Conflict by Emily Plank, Abundant Life Children
Toddler Bites by Lisa Sunbury, Regarding Baby
We Can Work it Out! Kids & Conflict Management by Sarah Morrison and Kelly Meier, Respectful Parent
Could NOT Forcing a Toddler to Share Help With Sharing Conflicts? by Kate Russell, Peaceful Parents, Confident Kids
These Toddlers Are NOT Sharing
Don’t Fix These Toddler Struggles
Baby Tug Of War, We’re Just Playing
We Can Work it Out! Kids & Conflict Management
My books: Elevating Child Care and No Bad Kids are now available on Audible!
(Photo by Valentina Powers on Flickr)
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