Parents often ask me how to get their children to focus, but that’s not our job, nor is it necessary. Our responsibility is to provide open-ended opportunities for kids to choose what they wish to focus on. When children practice focusing of their own volition, beginning as babies, they eventually learn to tune in and stay “on task”, even when what they’re doing isn’t especially exciting to them.
In other words, uninterrupted time to play their way as infants instills the ability to focus as toddlers and beyond.
Indeed, “patient babies” might seem like an oxymoron. But when we provide babies abundant freedom in a safe place to “call the shots”, they demonstrate that they are extraordinarily patient, joyful explorers.
To illustrate this beautifully… Heeeere’s Kobe!
Trust your children’s choices from the beginning so that they can begin to follow their passions, hone their talents, become outstanding learners, love what they do.
Just yesterday, while my son sweated it out on the soccer field in 99 degree heat, another parent asked, “How does he have such an incredible work ethic?”
It’s simple… “He loves this. He’s in heaven” (and he’s always played his way).
(Kerry, thank you so much for allowing me to share Kobe’s tutorial!)