elevating child care

The Curse of Respectful Parenting

The younger the child, the harder it is for her to show us who she is and to communicate her needs and capabilities. This means babies are ripe for our projections. What we see – or what we think we see – informs our responses. This is important stuff, because the manner in which we engage our children determines their core self-image and charts the course of our parent – child relationship. But aren’t...

New Baby – Helping Our ‘Good’ Kids Express Hard Feelings

It happens surprisingly often. Parents requesting my advice give an extensive, detailed account of the difficulties they are having with their child, and then just as they are wrapping up, they’ll casually slip in a bombshell: “There’s been a recent new addition to the family”.  Or they’ll mention parenthetically that they’re delivering in a few weeks. Aha! That explains a lot. In fact, just about...

9 Parenting Words To Live By

When you think of parenting, what words and images come to mind?  For me it’s ‘love’, then ‘hugs’, ‘pride’, ‘joy’ and one more word that unfortunately comes with the territory: ‘worry’. (I admit I’m one of the deluded who believes that if I worry about something hard enough it won’t happen, but heck, it works!) While I never need reminders to love, snuggle or worry about my kids, I make a...

Repairing Relationships With Our Children

Hi Janet, Thank you! Every article you write speaks to my personal needs as a parent right now. I have a 3.5 year old and an 11 month old, and I wish I had found your parenting philosophy before we had our first son. I feel I have much “fixing” to do, and I can see ways in which I have possibly created problems with our son because of how I handled things when he was younger.  He is a sweet, sweet boy, quite...

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