Comments on: Our Children Choose Us

By: janet

janet — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 21:16:24 +0000

I’m sure they are fantastic teachers! And I don’t think the lessons are ever over for any of us. I know I’m far from done. So good to hear from you, Cheryl!

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 20:13:05 +0000

Finally have a moment to check in …
Life with boys has me constantly telling myself that this latest phase (whatever it is)is just another lesson…and they are healthy and with no particular diagnoses!
Either my two sons are fantastic teachers or i am a slow learner…but bit by bit…we get through it…very nice to read you, Janet!

By: janet

janet — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 04:39:51 +0000

Beth’s mirror images, Lynn’s blessings and Ed’s angel are lovely contributions to this site. Thanks, all of you!

By: Ed Stagg

Ed Stagg — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:33:11 +0000

I have certainly learned a great deal from my son Janet. From an early age he was special in so many ways. And also being ADHD he was also a challenge. And then of course he pushed my limits when he went to Iraq, later discovering the difficulties in managing his own household, and making career choices for himself. All along the way he challenged my senses, my intellect, my patience, tolerance and understanding. He has made me not only a better father, but a better person in so many ways. Today he is his own man and he continues to teach me, but on a whole new level, one where we can exchange ideas man to man. It has been a wonderful journey. It was never straight, but it was always an adventure. Scriptures tell us that angels walk among us, he has certainly been one of mine.

Very nice article, I’m always suprised and looking forward by and what you pick next.

By: janet

janet — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 03:02:34 +0000

Thank you Beth and Lynn! These are wonderful stories. You are reminding me how patient, and how brave parents have to be.

By: Lynn Miner

Lynn Miner — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:03:39 +0000

Dear Janet,

I love your BLOG and you clearly write from your heart and speak for all of us moms (and dads). I too was challenged by my kids when they were young. For me it was my second son who came into this world gasping for oxygen. He needed to see so many doctors, have so much therapy and his mommy 24-7 until the age of 10. But regardless, I always had tons of love to give him and his older brother and I would have loved to have a third child. Unfortunately, my marriage did not survive the stress so I did not have any more children.

Thank you for bringing light to my two blessings…who are now 13 and 16!

-Lynn

By: Beth

Beth — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 17:47:56 +0000

Thank you Janet! I am all the way in cold western Massachusetts and though the weather these days is enough to make one cry (!), this post did the job! As the mom of a 14 and 11 year old – and very different they are – I believe 100% in what you are saying – which is why it touched me so deeply. There is no doubt that our children are here purposefully in our lives.I feel like they are holding up a mirror to me on so many days – and not because I see myself in them or that we are mirror images of each other but because of how we mix together, I am able to see so much of myself – who I am, the good and not so good, the strengths and weaknesses. I call one child my dream (the first) and the other my teacher (second) though they switch roles all the time and I understand we need our children in every shape and form to help us become better people – just as we are helping them do the same.