Comments on: Smelling Roses (Taking Babies on Errands) http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/ elevating child care Sat, 04 Feb 2012 14:50:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: janet http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-28734 janet Sat, 05 Nov 2011 04:21:25 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-28734 Carmen, I'm sorry you understood this post as advice to postpone errands until a child "feels like it". Seldom do infants and toddlers feel like shopping. What I was trying to express was the idea of slowing down and including your baby in the experience. Even a baby who doesn't "feel like it" deserves to be asked to participate in whatever it is we are asking them to do. I would sincerely like to hear more about what you mean by "being the parent I want to be". Carmen, I’m sorry you understood this post as advice to postpone errands until a child “feels like it”. Seldom do infants and toddlers feel like shopping. What I was trying to express was the idea of slowing down and including your baby in the experience. Even a baby who doesn’t “feel like it” deserves to be asked to participate in whatever it is we are asking them to do.

I would sincerely like to hear more about what you mean by “being the parent I want to be”.

]]> By: Carmen http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-28723 Carmen Sat, 05 Nov 2011 03:37:56 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-28723 So what do you advocate for those of us who don't have the luxury of putting off grocery shopping till our child feels like it? A sitter? Wait till dinner has been made, the house has been cleaned, and your children have been put to sleep before venturing out to a 24 hour grocery store at 8, 9 pm. Reading your blog doesn't give me much hope of being the parent I want to be. So what do you advocate for those of us who don’t have the luxury of putting off grocery shopping till our child feels like it? A sitter? Wait till dinner has been made, the house has been cleaned, and your children have been put to sleep before venturing out to a 24 hour grocery store at 8, 9 pm. Reading your blog doesn’t give me much hope of being the parent I want to be.

]]> By: Vanessa http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-21828 Vanessa Sun, 16 Oct 2011 05:04:51 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-21828 I love your site so much have been learning a lot from it. I do enjoy going grocery shopping with my son and he loves it too, it takes longer than it would if I went on my own but he gets to participate in the process and he feels so good about himself because he knows he helped me :) Thank you for the reminder of slowing down, there has been other type of outings where I have rushed him and then I realize that as long as he is allowed enough time to explore he will be more willing to accept when I say is time to go :) I love your site so much have been learning a lot from it. I do enjoy going grocery shopping with my son and he loves it too, it takes longer than it would if I went on my own but he gets to participate in the process and he feels so good about himself because he knows he helped me :)
Thank you for the reminder of slowing down, there has been other type of outings where I have rushed him and then I realize that as long as he is allowed enough time to explore he will be more willing to accept when I say is time to go :)

]]> By: Marnie @ Carrots are Orange http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-21713 Marnie @ Carrots are Orange Sat, 15 Oct 2011 20:11:10 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-21713 Wonderful! Thank you!! Wonderful! Thank you!!

]]> By: Teacher Tom http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-21686 Teacher Tom Sat, 15 Oct 2011 18:34:08 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-21686 Janet, you are so wise! I was so lucky to have been a parent who was not expected to be out earning a living during the time she was young. I think that has a big impact on our sense that we have to rush -- our time is just to little in our own command any more -- but we must take control of it for the sake of our kids. That's our schedule, not theirs; our agenda, not theirs. All people need the opportunity to live at their own pace and pursue their own course: that's what I learned from being a parent. I learned to always make my own schedule quite "flabby" to allow room for hers. Janet, you are so wise! I was so lucky to have been a parent who was not expected to be out earning a living during the time she was young. I think that has a big impact on our sense that we have to rush — our time is just to little in our own command any more — but we must take control of it for the sake of our kids. That’s our schedule, not theirs; our agenda, not theirs. All people need the opportunity to live at their own pace and pursue their own course: that’s what I learned from being a parent. I learned to always make my own schedule quite “flabby” to allow room for hers.

]]> By: janet http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-17846 janet Mon, 03 Oct 2011 21:03:46 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-17846 Wise mommy you are! Wise mommy you are!

]]> By: Laura M http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-17821 Laura M Mon, 03 Oct 2011 18:19:16 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-17821 I love this. I will never forget a gift someone gave me at a shower - a grocery store cart cover, for sanitation (god, how did we all survive childhood!?), and covered in toys for baby to play with while you do your shopping. All I could think, as I politely said "thank you", was, "for goodness' sake - why would I need to provide toys at the grocery store? What could be more interesting than a world filled with colors and smells and things to talk about and people to smile at and connect with?" I love this. I will never forget a gift someone gave me at a shower – a grocery store cart cover, for sanitation (god, how did we all survive childhood!?), and covered in toys for baby to play with while you do your shopping. All I could think, as I politely said “thank you”, was, “for goodness’ sake – why would I need to provide toys at the grocery store? What could be more interesting than a world filled with colors and smells and things to talk about and people to smile at and connect with?”

]]> By: janet http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-6101 janet Thu, 16 Jun 2011 18:45:34 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-6101 Very cool! That's what it's supposed to do. :) Very cool! That’s what it’s supposed to do. :)

]]> By: sherida http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-6100 sherida Thu, 16 Jun 2011 17:42:12 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-6100 I just read your article through someone on facebook and it amazed me, exactly the way you should treat children.. im only 21 and not even thinking about kids, but just interested in human behavior.. but this article almost makes me wanna have kids xD I just read your article through someone on facebook and it amazed me, exactly the way you should treat children..
im only 21 and not even thinking about kids, but just interested in human behavior.. but this article almost makes me wanna have kids xD

]]> By: Megan http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/smelling-roses/comment-page-1/#comment-2773 Megan Sun, 04 Jul 2010 20:20:17 +0000 http://www.janetlansbury.com/?p=242#comment-2773 Haha! I'm pretty sure he won't go for that. Luckily now we live close enough to stuff that I can do one errand at a time. So, she isn't overwhelmed. Haha! I’m pretty sure he won’t go for that. Luckily now we live close enough to stuff that I can do one errand at a time. So, she isn’t overwhelmed.

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